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Our local animal shelter is having a St. Patrick's Day adoption celebration for cats. Do you have any good Irish names for cats? I know for people they say "Patty O'Furniture, etc. Thank you.|||Erin, Shannon, Siobhan, Fergus, Aislinn
O'Shea, Shaunessy, Killian, McDonough, and for any cat with whte feet: McMittens|||It you want the names to be really Irish, it's Paddy (not Patty) and Seamus (not Shamis)
Most Irish first names are crazy weird. Irish surnames are better. Here a list: http://www.namenerds.com/irish/last.html
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_Laughs|||Claude O'Furniture might be more fitting lol. Some Irish names are: Murray, Seamus, Sean, Erin, Colleen and Tara.|||Lucky, Clover, Patrick|||Shamis|||a great name for an irish cat is paddy or shammy...............
13 Ekim 2012 Cumartesi
Baby Naming Issue: A Family Naming Tradition Breaks a Household's Naming Traditions
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Liv writes:
I really see the pressure here. I see why it will be difficult not to name your son after his father. I can see why your in-laws are so invested in it, and so upset about it. It's a painful situation all around, especially since no one wants to hurt anyone else.
But neither you nor your husband wants to use the name. The pressure does not trump that. You may CHOOSE to allow the pressure to trump that, if you wish, and some families do make that decision. But it comes down to this: there is no way for everyone in this situation to be happy, and the job of naming the baby is yours and your husband's.
Furthermore, you've already decided to give your children your husband's surname as a second middle name and your surname as their surname. Changing now would only make sense if you'd had a prior plan---something like "All the girls will have my surname and all the boys will have yours." Changing for the fifth child in order to meet your in-law's preferences seems wrong, and confusing.
Wait---re-reading the letter, it sounds like you'd give the baby your surname regardless. If your son is going to be a Hawke, then it doesn't matter what his other names are, he won't be a Fifth, and the tradition is broken regardless; I don't see any reason at all to use a first and middle name you don't like just to please your in-laws, when it won't even satisfy their naming tradition.
In fact, I'm ready to make a call here: if the baby is going to be Hawke, then no, don't name him the family names. Your mother-in-law doesn't get to name the baby, even if you love her and even if she cries. She named her own babies, and this is a "put the foot down" situation, similar to if she was insisting you buy a house she liked instead of one you liked, or insisting you wear clothes she liked instead of ones you liked, or insisting on another first/middle name not connected to the family. Perhaps one of her other sons will name a son after her husband. And if not, that is sad for her but that's the way it is: we do not go around pressuring other people to honor our family members with namesakes, just because it makes us sad if they don't.
If you decide not to use the name, and to continue with your household's tradition of the children getting their mother's surname, two things need to happen immediately: first, your husband needs to talk to his parents and tell them that their family name will not be used (I assume he doesn't need to be instructed to emphasize that this is what HE wants, since their inclination might be to assume otherwise); and second, all discussion with the in-laws on the topic needs to stop. If your mother-in-law calls you in tears, she needs to be told very kindly and understandingly that you're very sorry she's unhappy, that you wish this decision wasn't making her so unhappy---but that the decision has been made.
One thing that can make me quite upset about family naming traditions is that they can cause this kind of pressure---and the pressure builds with every generation. And the pressure is unwarranted and unfair: each set of parents gets to name their OWN babies---not the babies of their descendents. Naming traditions allow previous generations to name their own babies AND other people's babies. Furthermore, it makes the decision without the consent of people who will marry into the family in the future---traditionally speaking, the women. If everyone likes this idea, it's fine; but more often, people do it because no one can stand to be the one to break it. It's unfair, and I believe the concept that it is perfectly within the parents' rights to break such traditions should be more widespread.
Your idea of giving him the name Charlton _ucker as middle names might be a way to please your in-laws partway, without it being a capitulation: they're still losing their Fifth, and they lose the first name. It's common for a boy to be given his father's first name as a middle name, and a name you dislike wouldn't be as big a deal in the middle name position; and yet it may help to comfort and please your in-laws who have also gotten caught up in the pressure caused by this naming tradition.
I love your blog, and thank you so much for being such a voice of reason in the baby naming madness!and
My husband and I are hoping you can help us find a name for our son, who is due in about three weeks. There are a WHOLE bunch of issues. Let me try to unpack them....
So to begin at the beginning, my name is Olivia and my husband is Charlton. We go by Liv and Charlie.
We are super hippie dippy ish, as my 12 year old would say (she came back from some sort of drug awareness day at school and asked us how much weed we had smoked) and that's part of the issue, kind of. Our kids have my last name (Hawke) in part because of the hippie-ness, in part because his last name rhymes with an insult (f-er) and in part because I'm an only child and he has two brothers. the kids do have his last name as a second middle name.
We have four spectacular daughters: Adelaide Miriam, Samantha Irene, Georgia Isabel, Eleanor Miranda. they sometimes go by Addy, Sammy, Georgie, and Ellie but its not how they are introduced or anything, more like family/friends. We love that they have long formal names plus fun nicknames.
So here's the real problem: my parents are dead, so the problem is really my husband's family. They are super traditional and they are all SO EXCITED that we are having a boy. I think that they think that we just kept having girls until we finally got a boy, which is so not even a tiny bit true. We love having girls. We think it will be fun to have a boy because it will be interesting to get to parent both, but its not like we KEPT getting pregnant so we could "finally get our boy" as my FIL says. We just wanted a big family! (and this will be our last child because we agreed on five, NOT because we are "finally getting our boy."
so anyway. in Charlie's family the longstanding tradition is to give the firstborn boy (which this is) is to name is Charlton-Absurd Middle Name That Is The WASPiest Name You Can Imagine-Last Name That Rhymes With A Playground Insult. (Charlie is a fourth). the trouble is we don't like any of those names. Charlton is all NRA-y (see hippie dippie) the middle name is absurd, and this baby's last name will be Hawke, like the other kids. His parent aren't happy about that either.
but there is a LOT of pressure to Do It The Right Way, which means giving the baby this name we don't like. and the other thing is, both of us kind of feel like we don't want our girls to think for even a second that they aren't valued, or that The Boy is somehow better than them beacuse he has a penis, or WHATEVER. and although they all have middle names that have meaning to us--special friends, or influential people--none of them have family names. and I love my husband and would love to honor him with our son's name--but I don't exactly want to honor his father/grandfather etc, and also I HATE the name, and he isn't fond of it either...but it would mean so much to his parents. Ugh. No idea what to do.
So....what on earth do we do here?
(you can probably get a sense of our style from the girls names but some boys names we both like are William, James, Henry, Isaac, Edward, and Sebastian--though a couple of those are out so we dont repeat initials).
wow, i wrote you a lot. feel free to edit and delete parts!
and THANK YOU!!!!
I have one more....data point! The baby is due next week (eeeeeeeek) and my husband and I are just not sure what to do. My MIL called me last night weeping because she says that the idea of not having a grandson named after her husband makes her too sad. Which...what? On the one hand, wtf. On the other hand, I actually LIKE my MIL most of the time, and even though there are lots of things about us she doesn't approve of she has been really kind to me, especially as I don't have a mom anymore, and she is a really great grandma to my girls. So...what on earth do I do? We are kind of thinking about using Charlton as this baby's middle name but we don't LIKE it that much and also then we again have the issue of not wanting the girls to feel like they were undervalued because they ddin't get a family name.
I asked Addy (12) what she thinks yesterday and she says that it would bother her some not to be named after either parent if her brother was but that she'd get over it....
Thanks for any help!
I really see the pressure here. I see why it will be difficult not to name your son after his father. I can see why your in-laws are so invested in it, and so upset about it. It's a painful situation all around, especially since no one wants to hurt anyone else.
But neither you nor your husband wants to use the name. The pressure does not trump that. You may CHOOSE to allow the pressure to trump that, if you wish, and some families do make that decision. But it comes down to this: there is no way for everyone in this situation to be happy, and the job of naming the baby is yours and your husband's.
Furthermore, you've already decided to give your children your husband's surname as a second middle name and your surname as their surname. Changing now would only make sense if you'd had a prior plan---something like "All the girls will have my surname and all the boys will have yours." Changing for the fifth child in order to meet your in-law's preferences seems wrong, and confusing.
Wait---re-reading the letter, it sounds like you'd give the baby your surname regardless. If your son is going to be a Hawke, then it doesn't matter what his other names are, he won't be a Fifth, and the tradition is broken regardless; I don't see any reason at all to use a first and middle name you don't like just to please your in-laws, when it won't even satisfy their naming tradition.
In fact, I'm ready to make a call here: if the baby is going to be Hawke, then no, don't name him the family names. Your mother-in-law doesn't get to name the baby, even if you love her and even if she cries. She named her own babies, and this is a "put the foot down" situation, similar to if she was insisting you buy a house she liked instead of one you liked, or insisting you wear clothes she liked instead of ones you liked, or insisting on another first/middle name not connected to the family. Perhaps one of her other sons will name a son after her husband. And if not, that is sad for her but that's the way it is: we do not go around pressuring other people to honor our family members with namesakes, just because it makes us sad if they don't.
If you decide not to use the name, and to continue with your household's tradition of the children getting their mother's surname, two things need to happen immediately: first, your husband needs to talk to his parents and tell them that their family name will not be used (I assume he doesn't need to be instructed to emphasize that this is what HE wants, since their inclination might be to assume otherwise); and second, all discussion with the in-laws on the topic needs to stop. If your mother-in-law calls you in tears, she needs to be told very kindly and understandingly that you're very sorry she's unhappy, that you wish this decision wasn't making her so unhappy---but that the decision has been made.
One thing that can make me quite upset about family naming traditions is that they can cause this kind of pressure---and the pressure builds with every generation. And the pressure is unwarranted and unfair: each set of parents gets to name their OWN babies---not the babies of their descendents. Naming traditions allow previous generations to name their own babies AND other people's babies. Furthermore, it makes the decision without the consent of people who will marry into the family in the future---traditionally speaking, the women. If everyone likes this idea, it's fine; but more often, people do it because no one can stand to be the one to break it. It's unfair, and I believe the concept that it is perfectly within the parents' rights to break such traditions should be more widespread.
Your idea of giving him the name Charlton _ucker as middle names might be a way to please your in-laws partway, without it being a capitulation: they're still losing their Fifth, and they lose the first name. It's common for a boy to be given his father's first name as a middle name, and a name you dislike wouldn't be as big a deal in the middle name position; and yet it may help to comfort and please your in-laws who have also gotten caught up in the pressure caused by this naming tradition.
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Jessica writes:
The name Gwen seems great to me: four letters, but new initial, new ending, new sound. I agree with you: I'd want a middle name with more than one syllable. I'd go through the list of names that you liked but didn't want to use in the first name slot because they started with L or R or had an -ie/-y ending. Gwen Ruby Shafer is very nice.
If you like Claire/Clara but would prefer four letters, I suggest Cora. Cora Shafer; Lily and Cora.
Or Cleo. Cleo Shafer; Lily and Cleo. This wouldn't allow for Milo later, though.
If you like Ruby, you might like Ruth. Ruth Shafer; Lily and Ruth.
Or June. June Shafer; Lily and June.
Elle and Ella make me think of Anna. Anna Shafer; Lily and Anna.
I think Gwen is the best one, though.
If the baby is a boy, I favor Milo---not only because that was one of our finalist names for Henry, and I still have a soft spot for it, but also because it seems to have fewer issues than the name West. I prefer the name West to the name Weston, but the name West has the unfortunate issue of making names sound like towns: West Shafer. I also find the transition between -st and Sh- a little difficult to say: I end up with something like Wes Chafer.
I like Westley best as a longer form: that would still give you the four-letter nickname West, while also impressing fans of The Princess Bride AND removing associations with foundations and towns. It does give you another -ly name, but I think two in a row is a surmountable pattern, especially since one is a boy and one is a girl. (It's three in a row where I think it's nearly impossible to resist the pressure.)
But Milo avoids all these issues, so that's what I'd go with. Milo Shafer is wonderful; Lily and Milo is wonderful. I like Maxin fine with your surname, or I like the idea of using your maiden name as-is: Milo Maxin Shafer or Milo Reemalee Shafer. I prefer Maxin, because I'd prefer to avoid the initials MRS. If the actual spelling of your maiden name looks feminine, it would be nice for a girl: Gwen Reemalee Shafer.
So we have a baby naming dilemma - so much so that my dear husband keeps saying, "well, we have 10 days after the baby is born..."and
Yikes!
Our last name is pronounced Shafer. We have one daughter, Lily Grayce. We used Grayce with a 'y' in honor of good friends, and the mum happens to be British, so the "y" version is the popular spelling. We're not too concerned about popularity, and prefer that over odd spellings and unheard-of names. Where we live "Lily" is not all that popular, despite it sitting high on the charts, we know one other Lily who is about 5 years older than ours.
My husband's name is Eric and my name is Jess(ica) but as I usually go by the shorter, we all end up with four letter names with distinct letters - this makes it easy and neat, and we like it, but we're not stuck on 4 letters. We do prefer to have different initials at least between siblings and preferably the whole family. We'd love to have 4 kids at least if life allows, so we're trying not to get into too much of a pattern - hence we're not wanting to go with another "L" name for fear of having either all "L" names (tricky) or changing after kid 1&2 which feels odd. We also don't want to get into a pattern of "y" or "ie" endings. It seems like "er" ending names clash with our last name, so we're not having luck there either - between the "y"/"ie" and the "er" that knocks out a lot of names!
We're not finding out what we're having this time, but we already have our options fairly settled for boy names, it's girls we need help with!
We do tend to favor shorter names, and if we were to chose a longer name we would likely use a 1-2 syllable nickname on a daily basis. We even cut Lily down to "Lils.." a lot, so we're pretty lazy..!
We love Ruby, but it keeps us in the "y" ending... also considering Claire/Clara, Pearl, Olive (but not Olivia), and Sage.
I like Stella, Astrid, and Hazel, but my husband was not convinced. He has no ideas of his own. Our 2.5 year old would like to call the baby "Baby Poptart."
We like Jade, but don't like the meaning. We have also avoided short R girl names due to a close in age girl cousin named a variation of Ryan and a close friend named Roma, tho we are willing to bend on that for the perfect name! We've discarded flower names as well due to not wanting an obvious garden... but we're ok with plant and nature names.
If it helps, our top boy names are Milo, Jude, and Rowan, which would likely be paired with the middle name of Ellis, tho we're not decided by any means...
Can you save our 2nd kiddo from being "Baby Poptart" forever?
4-8 weeks to go (depending on who you ask and how long this one likes to bake) but still no settling on a name! We have some updates and changes tho, so perhaps you'll be up for helping - pretty pretty please? :D
We're down to boy's names Milo or West, which obviously have very different feels to them. We did favor the middle name "Maxin" (spelled with an 'o' not an 'i') which is my husband's grandmother's maiden name, however we're not sure about it with our last name (pronounced Shafer). My good friend and name lover greatly dislikes West (not a breaking point) and recommends Weston, but it reminds me of both the TV show Burn Notice and the Weston Price Foundation... maybe neither are an issue - thoughts? We have considered playing of my maiden name somehow to make a middle name for West or Weston - my maiden name is said Ree-mal-ee (spelled simply) so we considered using something like "Remington" but are afraid this might sound a bit NRA :) That's where we sit with the boys.
For girl names, we've added a new favorite to the top spot: Gwen. We keep debating different "Gwen-" names but keep coming back to Gwen because we're certain to shorten it to that for daily use anyway. Finding a middle name here again poses a bit of an issue. My husband suggested Pearl, but then we have GPS.. again, maybe not an issue. I'm not certain it's a great match tho, seems like we need a longer middle to make things flow better and we just can't seem to find one that fits.
Backups to Gwen we're still considering are Ella, Elle, Claire, and Ruby (tho we're still not fond of adding to the "-y / -ie" collection.
Will you give us a much needed hand?
The name Gwen seems great to me: four letters, but new initial, new ending, new sound. I agree with you: I'd want a middle name with more than one syllable. I'd go through the list of names that you liked but didn't want to use in the first name slot because they started with L or R or had an -ie/-y ending. Gwen Ruby Shafer is very nice.
If you like Claire/Clara but would prefer four letters, I suggest Cora. Cora Shafer; Lily and Cora.
Or Cleo. Cleo Shafer; Lily and Cleo. This wouldn't allow for Milo later, though.
If you like Ruby, you might like Ruth. Ruth Shafer; Lily and Ruth.
Or June. June Shafer; Lily and June.
Elle and Ella make me think of Anna. Anna Shafer; Lily and Anna.
I think Gwen is the best one, though.
If the baby is a boy, I favor Milo---not only because that was one of our finalist names for Henry, and I still have a soft spot for it, but also because it seems to have fewer issues than the name West. I prefer the name West to the name Weston, but the name West has the unfortunate issue of making names sound like towns: West Shafer. I also find the transition between -st and Sh- a little difficult to say: I end up with something like Wes Chafer.
I like Westley best as a longer form: that would still give you the four-letter nickname West, while also impressing fans of The Princess Bride AND removing associations with foundations and towns. It does give you another -ly name, but I think two in a row is a surmountable pattern, especially since one is a boy and one is a girl. (It's three in a row where I think it's nearly impossible to resist the pressure.)
But Milo avoids all these issues, so that's what I'd go with. Milo Shafer is wonderful; Lily and Milo is wonderful. I like Maxin fine with your surname, or I like the idea of using your maiden name as-is: Milo Maxin Shafer or Milo Reemalee Shafer. I prefer Maxin, because I'd prefer to avoid the initials MRS. If the actual spelling of your maiden name looks feminine, it would be nice for a girl: Gwen Reemalee Shafer.
Happy Father's Day June 16, 2013
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THIRD Sunday of June 16, 2013 is known and celebrated as Father's Day. So, what are you trying to get for the most important man in your life?
A Father's Day is greated once a year and it depends to you on how you can make this special day memorable for your closest man. Of course, there are many ways on how you can show to your daddy how much you love him.
First, we have no doubt you want to get a Father's Day gifts that will be cherished. You might try to find some thoughtful and unique father's day gifts that every dad will appreciate and enjoy. These gifts for dad are a great way to surprise him and make him proud to be your dad.
The best Father's Day gift for Dad should be one that expresses your gratitude to him for being your Dad. It should be one that comes from the heart. Even if you and your dad weren't that close, it is important that you pick the best Father's Day gift for Dad, because it sends a clear message to him that you do in fact care about him. You do in fact appreciate him for being your dad.
If you are not sure what to give for Daddy, then let's think first by asking yourself. Who your dad really is and what he might like. What does he mean to you? What role did he play in your life growing up? If your find the right answers, the best Father's Day gift for Dad just might be something you would never have thought of before.
Choosing that perfect Father's Day gift can be daunting task. However, there are hundreds of quality gifts available today that can be bought online. Search the internet for some ideas for gifts for dad, and be sure to order early so your gift arrives in time for Father's Day.
Father's Day 2013 on June 16th will be celebrated in many countries such as bellow. So, happy father's day for all the men who live there
Father's day in EUROPE:
Bulgaria, Croatia, Cyprus, Czech Republic, France, Greece, Hungary, Ireland, Malta, Netherlands, Slovakia, Turkey and United Kingdom.
Father's day celebration in AMERICAN Continent:
Argentina, Bahamas, Barbados, Belize, Bermuda, Canada, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Cuba, Guyana, Haiti, Mexico, Panama, Paraguay, Peru, Puerto Rico, Saint Lucia, Saint Vincent, Trinidad and Tobago, United States and Venezuela.
Father's day in ASIA:
Bahrain, Bangladesh, Brunei Darussalam, China, Hong Kong, India, Japan, Malaysia, Myanmar, Pakistan, Philippines, Singapore and Sri Lanka.
Finally happy Father's day June 16, 2013 in AFRICAN lands:
Ethiopia, Ghana, Jamaica, Mauritius, Namibia, Nigeria, South Africa, Zambia and Zimbabwe
Easy Activities and Gift Ideas for Mother's Day
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MOTHER's Day is coming up soon! It's on Sunday, May 12, 2013. So, what ways can you honor and celebrate your mom, wife, mother-in-law, grandmothers, sisters and aunts that creates powerful memories? What are some awesome recommendations for Mother’s Day gifts?
Celebrating and giving gifts on Mother's Day can be challenging task for some. Of course, on Mother's Day this year, you want to delight her by gifting a special day treatment and selecting good gifts of many choices like fresh flowers, perfumes, jewelry, or other delightful presents.
Here are a few tips: easy activities and gift ideas of Mother's Day 2013 that might be good for her:
1. Queen for a Day Treatment
What is meant by "Queen for a Day Treatment?" It's a day to show appreciation to own mother to get away from the everyday chores by.giving her treatment that would sure make her feel really loved. For examples; spending the whole day with fun activities and things that she truly wants to do, give her a massage, spa gift basket, facial treatment or send her a date with dad to their favorite hotel and restaurant. Lastly, give her a hugh and tell her how much you love her.
2. Spending Quality Time
Everyone agrees that time is the most precious thing in relationship. When we come of age, there’s a bit of disconnect of quality time together between the children and mom. Sometimes we are with our mom physically but not with her mentally. In this situation, what really mom need to spend time with their kids more of value time. Talk to her, indulge in her activities, and have some memorable time together. Don't waste every opportunity to bond with mom.
2. Gift Flowers
Flowers for mom on Mother's Day are the gift that is always welcomed for the right size and color, and will never have to be returned. Flowers are sure considered tasteful and thoughtful. Since woman basically enjoy the great smell and freshness of flowers that can "swing" her inner mood to be happy. Flowers can be ordered over the phone or via online, so they are very convenient for you as a giver. In addition, they are also basically inexpensive, but still sends the message of love and appreciation for the receiver.
3. Gift Basket for Mom
A gift basket for mom is a good idea on Mother's Day because there is a wide variety collections available nowadays. Each having its own arrangement that will fit Mom just right! This present can bring a personal touch to gift giving. Some Moms prefer gift basket that contains foods, flowers and chocolates with hand written note saying how much the kids love her. You may also think to present her a gift basket with beauty body care/bath products on it.
4. Write a Unique Letter
Write Mom a letter telling about the whole good things she’d done for you including the good memories you have with her. Write with your heart how meaningful she is since you were a kid till now. Share with her the things you've been carrying in your heart for a long time. Write Mom the greatest compliment ever. Show her with your hand written note instead of computerized one.
5. Home Video and CD
Home video and CD – a tribute to mom can be a great gift on Mother's Day. On this occasion you need to create a short home video that is a compilation of family videos. The point is she can watch it sometime whenever she misses her children. Or if you don’t have family videos then you can burn a CD Mix, a collection of all her favorite songs that remind her when you both used together.
There are more ideas and activities for Mother's Day. Finding memorable activities and gifts for Mom in 2013 are NOT difficult. Just remember the basic … mom doesn’t want their children to spend a fortune in order to make her really happy!
12 Ekim 2012 Cuma
Good names for "Irish" cats to be adopted on St. Patrick's Day?
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Hi,
Our local animal shelter is having a St. Patrick's Day adoption celebration for cats. Do you have any good Irish names for cats? I know for people they say "Patty O'Furniture, etc. Thank you.|||Erin, Shannon, Siobhan, Fergus, Aislinn
O'Shea, Shaunessy, Killian, McDonough, and for any cat with whte feet: McMittens|||It you want the names to be really Irish, it's Paddy (not Patty) and Seamus (not Shamis)
Most Irish first names are crazy weird. Irish surnames are better. Here a list: http://www.namenerds.com/irish/last.html
I like Guinness.|||http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_Drink鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Cat_Bo鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_Laughs|||Claude O'Furniture might be more fitting lol. Some Irish names are: Murray, Seamus, Sean, Erin, Colleen and Tara.|||Lucky, Clover, Patrick|||Shamis|||a great name for an irish cat is paddy or shammy...............
Our local animal shelter is having a St. Patrick's Day adoption celebration for cats. Do you have any good Irish names for cats? I know for people they say "Patty O'Furniture, etc. Thank you.|||Erin, Shannon, Siobhan, Fergus, Aislinn
O'Shea, Shaunessy, Killian, McDonough, and for any cat with whte feet: McMittens|||It you want the names to be really Irish, it's Paddy (not Patty) and Seamus (not Shamis)
Most Irish first names are crazy weird. Irish surnames are better. Here a list: http://www.namenerds.com/irish/last.html
I like Guinness.|||http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_Drink鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Cat_Bo鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_Laughs|||Claude O'Furniture might be more fitting lol. Some Irish names are: Murray, Seamus, Sean, Erin, Colleen and Tara.|||Lucky, Clover, Patrick|||Shamis|||a great name for an irish cat is paddy or shammy...............
Happy Father's Day June 16, 2013
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THIRD Sunday of June 16, 2013 is known and celebrated as Father's Day. So, what are you trying to get for the most important man in your life?
A Father's Day is greated once a year and it depends to you on how you can make this special day memorable for your closest man. Of course, there are many ways on how you can show to your daddy how much you love him.
First, we have no doubt you want to get a Father's Day gifts that will be cherished. You might try to find some thoughtful and unique father's day gifts that every dad will appreciate and enjoy. These gifts for dad are a great way to surprise him and make him proud to be your dad.
The best Father's Day gift for Dad should be one that expresses your gratitude to him for being your Dad. It should be one that comes from the heart. Even if you and your dad weren't that close, it is important that you pick the best Father's Day gift for Dad, because it sends a clear message to him that you do in fact care about him. You do in fact appreciate him for being your dad.
If you are not sure what to give for Daddy, then let's think first by asking yourself. Who your dad really is and what he might like. What does he mean to you? What role did he play in your life growing up? If your find the right answers, the best Father's Day gift for Dad just might be something you would never have thought of before.
Choosing that perfect Father's Day gift can be daunting task. However, there are hundreds of quality gifts available today that can be bought online. Search the internet for some ideas for gifts for dad, and be sure to order early so your gift arrives in time for Father's Day.
Father's Day 2013 on June 16th will be celebrated in many countries such as bellow. So, happy father's day for all the men who live there
Father's day in EUROPE:
Bulgaria, Croatia, Cyprus, Czech Republic, France, Greece, Hungary, Ireland, Malta, Netherlands, Slovakia, Turkey and United Kingdom.
Father's day celebration in AMERICAN Continent:
Argentina, Bahamas, Barbados, Belize, Bermuda, Canada, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Cuba, Guyana, Haiti, Mexico, Panama, Paraguay, Peru, Puerto Rico, Saint Lucia, Saint Vincent, Trinidad and Tobago, United States and Venezuela.
Father's day in ASIA:
Bahrain, Bangladesh, Brunei Darussalam, China, Hong Kong, India, Japan, Malaysia, Myanmar, Pakistan, Philippines, Singapore and Sri Lanka.
Finally happy Father's day June 16, 2013 in AFRICAN lands:
Ethiopia, Ghana, Jamaica, Mauritius, Namibia, Nigeria, South Africa, Zambia and Zimbabwe
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Happy Father's Day June 16, 2013
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THIRD Sunday of June 16, 2013 is known and celebrated as Father's Day. So, what are you trying to get for the most important man in your life?
A Father's Day is greated once a year and it depends to you on how you can make this special day memorable for your closest man. Of course, there are many ways on how you can show to your daddy how much you love him.
First, we have no doubt you want to get a Father's Day gifts that will be cherished. You might try to find some thoughtful and unique father's day gifts that every dad will appreciate and enjoy. These gifts for dad are a great way to surprise him and make him proud to be your dad.
The best Father's Day gift for Dad should be one that expresses your gratitude to him for being your Dad. It should be one that comes from the heart. Even if you and your dad weren't that close, it is important that you pick the best Father's Day gift for Dad, because it sends a clear message to him that you do in fact care about him. You do in fact appreciate him for being your dad.
If you are not sure what to give for Daddy, then let's think first by asking yourself. Who your dad really is and what he might like. What does he mean to you? What role did he play in your life growing up? If your find the right answers, the best Father's Day gift for Dad just might be something you would never have thought of before.
Choosing that perfect Father's Day gift can be daunting task. However, there are hundreds of quality gifts available today that can be bought online. Search the internet for some ideas for gifts for dad, and be sure to order early so your gift arrives in time for Father's Day.
Father's Day 2013 on June 16th will be celebrated in many countries such as bellow. So, happy father's day for all the men who live there
Father's day in EUROPE:
Bulgaria, Croatia, Cyprus, Czech Republic, France, Greece, Hungary, Ireland, Malta, Netherlands, Slovakia, Turkey and United Kingdom.
Father's day celebration in AMERICAN Continent:
Argentina, Bahamas, Barbados, Belize, Bermuda, Canada, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Cuba, Guyana, Haiti, Mexico, Panama, Paraguay, Peru, Puerto Rico, Saint Lucia, Saint Vincent, Trinidad and Tobago, United States and Venezuela.
Father's day in ASIA:
Bahrain, Bangladesh, Brunei Darussalam, China, Hong Kong, India, Japan, Malaysia, Myanmar, Pakistan, Philippines, Singapore and Sri Lanka.
Finally happy Father's day June 16, 2013 in AFRICAN lands:
Ethiopia, Ghana, Jamaica, Mauritius, Namibia, Nigeria, South Africa, Zambia and Zimbabwe
Easy Activities and Gift Ideas for Mother's Day
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MOTHER's Day is coming up soon! It's on Sunday, May 12, 2013. So, what ways can you honor and celebrate your mom, wife, mother-in-law, grandmothers, sisters and aunts that creates powerful memories? What are some awesome recommendations for Mother’s Day gifts?
Celebrating and giving gifts on Mother's Day can be challenging task for some. Of course, on Mother's Day this year, you want to delight her by gifting a special day treatment and selecting good gifts of many choices like fresh flowers, perfumes, jewelry, or other delightful presents.
Here are a few tips: easy activities and gift ideas of Mother's Day 2013 that might be good for her:
1. Queen for a Day Treatment
What is meant by "Queen for a Day Treatment?" It's a day to show appreciation to own mother to get away from the everyday chores by.giving her treatment that would sure make her feel really loved. For examples; spending the whole day with fun activities and things that she truly wants to do, give her a massage, spa gift basket, facial treatment or send her a date with dad to their favorite hotel and restaurant. Lastly, give her a hugh and tell her how much you love her.
2. Spending Quality Time
Everyone agrees that time is the most precious thing in relationship. When we come of age, there’s a bit of disconnect of quality time together between the children and mom. Sometimes we are with our mom physically but not with her mentally. In this situation, what really mom need to spend time with their kids more of value time. Talk to her, indulge in her activities, and have some memorable time together. Don't waste every opportunity to bond with mom.
2. Gift Flowers
Flowers for mom on Mother's Day are the gift that is always welcomed for the right size and color, and will never have to be returned. Flowers are sure considered tasteful and thoughtful. Since woman basically enjoy the great smell and freshness of flowers that can "swing" her inner mood to be happy. Flowers can be ordered over the phone or via online, so they are very convenient for you as a giver. In addition, they are also basically inexpensive, but still sends the message of love and appreciation for the receiver.
3. Gift Basket for Mom
A gift basket for mom is a good idea on Mother's Day because there is a wide variety collections available nowadays. Each having its own arrangement that will fit Mom just right! This present can bring a personal touch to gift giving. Some Moms prefer gift basket that contains foods, flowers and chocolates with hand written note saying how much the kids love her. You may also think to present her a gift basket with beauty body care/bath products on it.
4. Write a Unique Letter
Write Mom a letter telling about the whole good things she’d done for you including the good memories you have with her. Write with your heart how meaningful she is since you were a kid till now. Share with her the things you've been carrying in your heart for a long time. Write Mom the greatest compliment ever. Show her with your hand written note instead of computerized one.
5. Home Video and CD
Home video and CD – a tribute to mom can be a great gift on Mother's Day. On this occasion you need to create a short home video that is a compilation of family videos. The point is she can watch it sometime whenever she misses her children. Or if you don’t have family videos then you can burn a CD Mix, a collection of all her favorite songs that remind her when you both used together.
There are more ideas and activities for Mother's Day. Finding memorable activities and gifts for Mom in 2013 are NOT difficult. Just remember the basic … mom doesn’t want their children to spend a fortune in order to make her really happy!
Good names for "Irish" cats to be adopted on St. Patrick's Day?
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Hi,
Our local animal shelter is having a St. Patrick's Day adoption celebration for cats. Do you have any good Irish names for cats? I know for people they say "Patty O'Furniture, etc. Thank you.|||Erin, Shannon, Siobhan, Fergus, Aislinn
O'Shea, Shaunessy, Killian, McDonough, and for any cat with whte feet: McMittens|||It you want the names to be really Irish, it's Paddy (not Patty) and Seamus (not Shamis)
Most Irish first names are crazy weird. Irish surnames are better. Here a list: http://www.namenerds.com/irish/last.html
I like Guinness.|||http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_Drink鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Cat_Bo鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_Laughs|||Claude O'Furniture might be more fitting lol. Some Irish names are: Murray, Seamus, Sean, Erin, Colleen and Tara.|||Lucky, Clover, Patrick|||Shamis|||a great name for an irish cat is paddy or shammy...............
Our local animal shelter is having a St. Patrick's Day adoption celebration for cats. Do you have any good Irish names for cats? I know for people they say "Patty O'Furniture, etc. Thank you.|||Erin, Shannon, Siobhan, Fergus, Aislinn
O'Shea, Shaunessy, Killian, McDonough, and for any cat with whte feet: McMittens|||It you want the names to be really Irish, it's Paddy (not Patty) and Seamus (not Shamis)
Most Irish first names are crazy weird. Irish surnames are better. Here a list: http://www.namenerds.com/irish/last.html
I like Guinness.|||http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_Drink鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Cat_Bo鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_Laughs|||Claude O'Furniture might be more fitting lol. Some Irish names are: Murray, Seamus, Sean, Erin, Colleen and Tara.|||Lucky, Clover, Patrick|||Shamis|||a great name for an irish cat is paddy or shammy...............
Baby Naming Issue: A Family Naming Tradition Breaks a Household's Naming Traditions
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Liv writes:
I really see the pressure here. I see why it will be difficult not to name your son after his father. I can see why your in-laws are so invested in it, and so upset about it. It's a painful situation all around, especially since no one wants to hurt anyone else.
But neither you nor your husband wants to use the name. The pressure does not trump that. You may CHOOSE to allow the pressure to trump that, if you wish, and some families do make that decision. But it comes down to this: there is no way for everyone in this situation to be happy, and the job of naming the baby is yours and your husband's.
Furthermore, you've already decided to give your children your husband's surname as a second middle name and your surname as their surname. Changing now would only make sense if you'd had a prior plan---something like "All the girls will have my surname and all the boys will have yours." Changing for the fifth child in order to meet your in-law's preferences seems wrong, and confusing.
Wait---re-reading the letter, it sounds like you'd give the baby your surname regardless. If your son is going to be a Hawke, then it doesn't matter what his other names are, he won't be a Fifth, and the tradition is broken regardless; I don't see any reason at all to use a first and middle name you don't like just to please your in-laws, when it won't even satisfy their naming tradition.
In fact, I'm ready to make a call here: if the baby is going to be Hawke, then no, don't name him the family names. Your mother-in-law doesn't get to name the baby, even if you love her and even if she cries. She named her own babies, and this is a "put the foot down" situation, similar to if she was insisting you buy a house she liked instead of one you liked, or insisting you wear clothes she liked instead of ones you liked, or insisting on another first/middle name not connected to the family. Perhaps one of her other sons will name a son after her husband. And if not, that is sad for her but that's the way it is: we do not go around pressuring other people to honor our family members with namesakes, just because it makes us sad if they don't.
If you decide not to use the name, and to continue with your household's tradition of the children getting their mother's surname, two things need to happen immediately: first, your husband needs to talk to his parents and tell them that their family name will not be used (I assume he doesn't need to be instructed to emphasize that this is what HE wants, since their inclination might be to assume otherwise); and second, all discussion with the in-laws on the topic needs to stop. If your mother-in-law calls you in tears, she needs to be told very kindly and understandingly that you're very sorry she's unhappy, that you wish this decision wasn't making her so unhappy---but that the decision has been made.
One thing that can make me quite upset about family naming traditions is that they can cause this kind of pressure---and the pressure builds with every generation. And the pressure is unwarranted and unfair: each set of parents gets to name their OWN babies---not the babies of their descendents. Naming traditions allow previous generations to name their own babies AND other people's babies. Furthermore, it makes the decision without the consent of people who will marry into the family in the future---traditionally speaking, the women. If everyone likes this idea, it's fine; but more often, people do it because no one can stand to be the one to break it. It's unfair, and I believe the concept that it is perfectly within the parents' rights to break such traditions should be more widespread.
Your idea of giving him the name Charlton _ucker as middle names might be a way to please your in-laws partway, without it being a capitulation: they're still losing their Fifth, and they lose the first name. It's common for a boy to be given his father's first name as a middle name, and a name you dislike wouldn't be as big a deal in the middle name position; and yet it may help to comfort and please your in-laws who have also gotten caught up in the pressure caused by this naming tradition.
I love your blog, and thank you so much for being such a voice of reason in the baby naming madness!and
My husband and I are hoping you can help us find a name for our son, who is due in about three weeks. There are a WHOLE bunch of issues. Let me try to unpack them....
So to begin at the beginning, my name is Olivia and my husband is Charlton. We go by Liv and Charlie.
We are super hippie dippy ish, as my 12 year old would say (she came back from some sort of drug awareness day at school and asked us how much weed we had smoked) and that's part of the issue, kind of. Our kids have my last name (Hawke) in part because of the hippie-ness, in part because his last name rhymes with an insult (f-er) and in part because I'm an only child and he has two brothers. the kids do have his last name as a second middle name.
We have four spectacular daughters: Adelaide Miriam, Samantha Irene, Georgia Isabel, Eleanor Miranda. they sometimes go by Addy, Sammy, Georgie, and Ellie but its not how they are introduced or anything, more like family/friends. We love that they have long formal names plus fun nicknames.
So here's the real problem: my parents are dead, so the problem is really my husband's family. They are super traditional and they are all SO EXCITED that we are having a boy. I think that they think that we just kept having girls until we finally got a boy, which is so not even a tiny bit true. We love having girls. We think it will be fun to have a boy because it will be interesting to get to parent both, but its not like we KEPT getting pregnant so we could "finally get our boy" as my FIL says. We just wanted a big family! (and this will be our last child because we agreed on five, NOT because we are "finally getting our boy."
so anyway. in Charlie's family the longstanding tradition is to give the firstborn boy (which this is) is to name is Charlton-Absurd Middle Name That Is The WASPiest Name You Can Imagine-Last Name That Rhymes With A Playground Insult. (Charlie is a fourth). the trouble is we don't like any of those names. Charlton is all NRA-y (see hippie dippie) the middle name is absurd, and this baby's last name will be Hawke, like the other kids. His parent aren't happy about that either.
but there is a LOT of pressure to Do It The Right Way, which means giving the baby this name we don't like. and the other thing is, both of us kind of feel like we don't want our girls to think for even a second that they aren't valued, or that The Boy is somehow better than them beacuse he has a penis, or WHATEVER. and although they all have middle names that have meaning to us--special friends, or influential people--none of them have family names. and I love my husband and would love to honor him with our son's name--but I don't exactly want to honor his father/grandfather etc, and also I HATE the name, and he isn't fond of it either...but it would mean so much to his parents. Ugh. No idea what to do.
So....what on earth do we do here?
(you can probably get a sense of our style from the girls names but some boys names we both like are William, James, Henry, Isaac, Edward, and Sebastian--though a couple of those are out so we dont repeat initials).
wow, i wrote you a lot. feel free to edit and delete parts!
and THANK YOU!!!!
I have one more....data point! The baby is due next week (eeeeeeeek) and my husband and I are just not sure what to do. My MIL called me last night weeping because she says that the idea of not having a grandson named after her husband makes her too sad. Which...what? On the one hand, wtf. On the other hand, I actually LIKE my MIL most of the time, and even though there are lots of things about us she doesn't approve of she has been really kind to me, especially as I don't have a mom anymore, and she is a really great grandma to my girls. So...what on earth do I do? We are kind of thinking about using Charlton as this baby's middle name but we don't LIKE it that much and also then we again have the issue of not wanting the girls to feel like they were undervalued because they ddin't get a family name.
I asked Addy (12) what she thinks yesterday and she says that it would bother her some not to be named after either parent if her brother was but that she'd get over it....
Thanks for any help!
I really see the pressure here. I see why it will be difficult not to name your son after his father. I can see why your in-laws are so invested in it, and so upset about it. It's a painful situation all around, especially since no one wants to hurt anyone else.
But neither you nor your husband wants to use the name. The pressure does not trump that. You may CHOOSE to allow the pressure to trump that, if you wish, and some families do make that decision. But it comes down to this: there is no way for everyone in this situation to be happy, and the job of naming the baby is yours and your husband's.
Furthermore, you've already decided to give your children your husband's surname as a second middle name and your surname as their surname. Changing now would only make sense if you'd had a prior plan---something like "All the girls will have my surname and all the boys will have yours." Changing for the fifth child in order to meet your in-law's preferences seems wrong, and confusing.
Wait---re-reading the letter, it sounds like you'd give the baby your surname regardless. If your son is going to be a Hawke, then it doesn't matter what his other names are, he won't be a Fifth, and the tradition is broken regardless; I don't see any reason at all to use a first and middle name you don't like just to please your in-laws, when it won't even satisfy their naming tradition.
In fact, I'm ready to make a call here: if the baby is going to be Hawke, then no, don't name him the family names. Your mother-in-law doesn't get to name the baby, even if you love her and even if she cries. She named her own babies, and this is a "put the foot down" situation, similar to if she was insisting you buy a house she liked instead of one you liked, or insisting you wear clothes she liked instead of ones you liked, or insisting on another first/middle name not connected to the family. Perhaps one of her other sons will name a son after her husband. And if not, that is sad for her but that's the way it is: we do not go around pressuring other people to honor our family members with namesakes, just because it makes us sad if they don't.
If you decide not to use the name, and to continue with your household's tradition of the children getting their mother's surname, two things need to happen immediately: first, your husband needs to talk to his parents and tell them that their family name will not be used (I assume he doesn't need to be instructed to emphasize that this is what HE wants, since their inclination might be to assume otherwise); and second, all discussion with the in-laws on the topic needs to stop. If your mother-in-law calls you in tears, she needs to be told very kindly and understandingly that you're very sorry she's unhappy, that you wish this decision wasn't making her so unhappy---but that the decision has been made.
One thing that can make me quite upset about family naming traditions is that they can cause this kind of pressure---and the pressure builds with every generation. And the pressure is unwarranted and unfair: each set of parents gets to name their OWN babies---not the babies of their descendents. Naming traditions allow previous generations to name their own babies AND other people's babies. Furthermore, it makes the decision without the consent of people who will marry into the family in the future---traditionally speaking, the women. If everyone likes this idea, it's fine; but more often, people do it because no one can stand to be the one to break it. It's unfair, and I believe the concept that it is perfectly within the parents' rights to break such traditions should be more widespread.
Your idea of giving him the name Charlton _ucker as middle names might be a way to please your in-laws partway, without it being a capitulation: they're still losing their Fifth, and they lose the first name. It's common for a boy to be given his father's first name as a middle name, and a name you dislike wouldn't be as big a deal in the middle name position; and yet it may help to comfort and please your in-laws who have also gotten caught up in the pressure caused by this naming tradition.
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N. writes:
Reading about how difficult it is to come up with enough family name candidates for even the first child of a hoped-for several, I do think you should consider changing that policy. Or rather, I think you should consider deciding that three family/honor names per child is enough to satisfy that preference, and the fourth name can be one you chose because you liked it. And then it won't matter as much if the family/honor name is one you don't fervently love or is a little unusual or is one that someone else already used, because you can use it as the first of the two middle names and voila! Or if you find you have plenty of family names to choose two different ones for every single girl you have, that will be fine too: the rule would just be "At least one family/honor name, in addition to the two other family names each child will automatically get," instead of "All four names need to be family/honor names."
The name Hartman first makes me think of Phil Hartman, which would be a positive association for me except that I also think right away of his sad death. But it's hard to say what percentage of the population would think the same way, and his murder was fourteen years ago now. It's unlikely the child's peers will make the association, even if a percentage of the peers' parents/teachers do.
I do then think of Cartman. It's unfortunate, because Hartman is a wonderful name. And if I knew a baby named Hartman, I wonder if both associations would quickly vanish? And having multiple associations does tend to diffuse the strength of any one association. And it's an honor name, and "It's a family name" is a very useful thing to say.
When I write out Hartman David Elbrecht Bieber, I notice that it looks like three surnames and one first name. Would you like David Hartman Elbrecht Bieber instead? It seems as if it solves all the problems while keeping all the names. The name David feels common, and was #18 in 2011 according to the Social Security Administration, but so far none of my children have had a David in the classroom. Perhaps many of the children named David are namesakes going by middle names instead? Or perhaps it's that my particular town is David-poor and all the Davids are piling up in other children's classrooms.
For the name Clark, my first thought is "Oh, great fresh surname name!"---the same as I think when I hear of a child named Smith or Miller. My other association is with Clark Kent, and that's a positive one. I don't think of Clark Griswold, but I've never made it all the way through a National Lampoon movie. Paul has watched them repeatedly, so I emailed him at work and asked him "If you heard of a baby named Clark, would you think of Clark Griswold?" He replied: "No, I'd think of Clarks Kent and Gable."
I'd also suggest Grant, which is in the same file drawer of my mind.
Calvin seems like a wonderful option to me. Calvin Hartman Elbrecht Bieber, with the great nickname Cal if you want it. I love it.
If Owen is close-but-not-quite, I suggest Ian---unless that vowel sound is odd with the surname, as I think it would be if it were exactly like Bieber, in which case I suggest Evan or Nolan or Rohan.
We are expecting our first child, a boy, this January and I am having the hardest time settling/making my peace with a name! We had all sorts of girl names that we loved but boy names are a completely different story . . . honestly, my first thought when we found out the gender was - how will we ever find a name?! And ever since then, I've just been going round and round in my head about it.
So, here are the details: our last name sounds like Bieber (No, "Justin" is not a contender) but is spelled differently and we will be giving the baby my maiden name as a second middle name. My maiden name sounds like Elbrecht (pronounced *very* German, like you're sneezing at the end, not "Elbright"). We both would really like to use family names and would like something uncommon but not weird. Although, to be perfectly honest, I'd be willing to break the family name rule if we found a name that we really loved.
Ok, the lead contender right now is Hartman David, but I keep worrying that Hartman is too strange and/or people hate it. Does it make you think of Cartman from South Park? Is it less weird if he goes by Hart? But I do like that David means beloved and that Hart is close to, well, heart. Goes together, right? Plus, he could always go by David if he really hated Hart.
If we don't use Hartman as the first name, it'll definitely be the second as we're both agreed that we want to honor the person it'll be after. Other possible first names under consideration:
Clark (husband worried about "Clark" being associated with Clark Griswold, I worry that Clark is too "hard" sounding)
Owen (possibly my favorite, although I worry that it is just too popular, and my husband has a mild distaste for it for some reason . . .)
Considered but discarded:
Xavier (my favorite, husband hates)
Wyatt (my second favorite but not a family name and previously claimed by friend)
Richard (hated by current name-holder)
Paul (just no love for it in particular)
Benjamin, Andrew, Joseph (too common)
Lloyd, Vernon, Virgil, Olaf (too weird, also, by this point, we are way back in ye olde family tree)
Although this will be our first babe, we plan to have several more so . . . hopefully they will be girls! (Just for ease of naming, of course.) And, for reference, the girl name we loved was Eloise.
Please, please help!
Oh, I forgot one! I also suggested Calvin in the beginning (because of my love for A Wrinkle in Time and Calvin and Hobbes) and we both thought it acceptable but ultimately haven't pursued it because it's not a family name. Part of me wonders if I just need to let that go since it seems so constraining . . . but then I love the idea of making the name a tie to family history and previous generations.
Thank you!
Reading about how difficult it is to come up with enough family name candidates for even the first child of a hoped-for several, I do think you should consider changing that policy. Or rather, I think you should consider deciding that three family/honor names per child is enough to satisfy that preference, and the fourth name can be one you chose because you liked it. And then it won't matter as much if the family/honor name is one you don't fervently love or is a little unusual or is one that someone else already used, because you can use it as the first of the two middle names and voila! Or if you find you have plenty of family names to choose two different ones for every single girl you have, that will be fine too: the rule would just be "At least one family/honor name, in addition to the two other family names each child will automatically get," instead of "All four names need to be family/honor names."
The name Hartman first makes me think of Phil Hartman, which would be a positive association for me except that I also think right away of his sad death. But it's hard to say what percentage of the population would think the same way, and his murder was fourteen years ago now. It's unlikely the child's peers will make the association, even if a percentage of the peers' parents/teachers do.
I do then think of Cartman. It's unfortunate, because Hartman is a wonderful name. And if I knew a baby named Hartman, I wonder if both associations would quickly vanish? And having multiple associations does tend to diffuse the strength of any one association. And it's an honor name, and "It's a family name" is a very useful thing to say.
When I write out Hartman David Elbrecht Bieber, I notice that it looks like three surnames and one first name. Would you like David Hartman Elbrecht Bieber instead? It seems as if it solves all the problems while keeping all the names. The name David feels common, and was #18 in 2011 according to the Social Security Administration, but so far none of my children have had a David in the classroom. Perhaps many of the children named David are namesakes going by middle names instead? Or perhaps it's that my particular town is David-poor and all the Davids are piling up in other children's classrooms.
For the name Clark, my first thought is "Oh, great fresh surname name!"---the same as I think when I hear of a child named Smith or Miller. My other association is with Clark Kent, and that's a positive one. I don't think of Clark Griswold, but I've never made it all the way through a National Lampoon movie. Paul has watched them repeatedly, so I emailed him at work and asked him "If you heard of a baby named Clark, would you think of Clark Griswold?" He replied: "No, I'd think of Clarks Kent and Gable."
I'd also suggest Grant, which is in the same file drawer of my mind.
Calvin seems like a wonderful option to me. Calvin Hartman Elbrecht Bieber, with the great nickname Cal if you want it. I love it.
If Owen is close-but-not-quite, I suggest Ian---unless that vowel sound is odd with the surname, as I think it would be if it were exactly like Bieber, in which case I suggest Evan or Nolan or Rohan.
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Good names for "Irish" cats to be adopted on St. Patrick's Day?
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Hi,
Our local animal shelter is having a St. Patrick's Day adoption celebration for cats. Do you have any good Irish names for cats? I know for people they say "Patty O'Furniture, etc. Thank you.|||Erin, Shannon, Siobhan, Fergus, Aislinn
O'Shea, Shaunessy, Killian, McDonough, and for any cat with whte feet: McMittens|||It you want the names to be really Irish, it's Paddy (not Patty) and Seamus (not Shamis)
Most Irish first names are crazy weird. Irish surnames are better. Here a list: http://www.namenerds.com/irish/last.html
I like Guinness.|||http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_Drink鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Cat_Bo鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_Laughs|||Claude O'Furniture might be more fitting lol. Some Irish names are: Murray, Seamus, Sean, Erin, Colleen and Tara.|||Lucky, Clover, Patrick|||Shamis|||a great name for an irish cat is paddy or shammy...............
Our local animal shelter is having a St. Patrick's Day adoption celebration for cats. Do you have any good Irish names for cats? I know for people they say "Patty O'Furniture, etc. Thank you.|||Erin, Shannon, Siobhan, Fergus, Aislinn
O'Shea, Shaunessy, Killian, McDonough, and for any cat with whte feet: McMittens|||It you want the names to be really Irish, it's Paddy (not Patty) and Seamus (not Shamis)
Most Irish first names are crazy weird. Irish surnames are better. Here a list: http://www.namenerds.com/irish/last.html
I like Guinness.|||http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_Drink鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Cat_Bo鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_Laughs|||Claude O'Furniture might be more fitting lol. Some Irish names are: Murray, Seamus, Sean, Erin, Colleen and Tara.|||Lucky, Clover, Patrick|||Shamis|||a great name for an irish cat is paddy or shammy...............
Baby Naming Issue: A Family Naming Tradition Breaks a Household's Naming Traditions
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Liv writes:
I really see the pressure here. I see why it will be difficult not to name your son after his father. I can see why your in-laws are so invested in it, and so upset about it. It's a painful situation all around, especially since no one wants to hurt anyone else.
But neither you nor your husband wants to use the name. The pressure does not trump that. You may CHOOSE to allow the pressure to trump that, if you wish, and some families do make that decision. But it comes down to this: there is no way for everyone in this situation to be happy, and the job of naming the baby is yours and your husband's.
Furthermore, you've already decided to give your children your husband's surname as a second middle name and your surname as their surname. Changing now would only make sense if you'd had a prior plan---something like "All the girls will have my surname and all the boys will have yours." Changing for the fifth child in order to meet your in-law's preferences seems wrong, and confusing.
Wait---re-reading the letter, it sounds like you'd give the baby your surname regardless. If your son is going to be a Hawke, then it doesn't matter what his other names are, he won't be a Fifth, and the tradition is broken regardless; I don't see any reason at all to use a first and middle name you don't like just to please your in-laws, when it won't even satisfy their naming tradition.
In fact, I'm ready to make a call here: if the baby is going to be Hawke, then no, don't name him the family names. Your mother-in-law doesn't get to name the baby, even if you love her and even if she cries. She named her own babies, and this is a "put the foot down" situation, similar to if she was insisting you buy a house she liked instead of one you liked, or insisting you wear clothes she liked instead of ones you liked, or insisting on another first/middle name not connected to the family. Perhaps one of her other sons will name a son after her husband. And if not, that is sad for her but that's the way it is: we do not go around pressuring other people to honor our family members with namesakes, just because it makes us sad if they don't.
If you decide not to use the name, and to continue with your household's tradition of the children getting their mother's surname, two things need to happen immediately: first, your husband needs to talk to his parents and tell them that their family name will not be used (I assume he doesn't need to be instructed to emphasize that this is what HE wants, since their inclination might be to assume otherwise); and second, all discussion with the in-laws on the topic needs to stop. If your mother-in-law calls you in tears, she needs to be told very kindly and understandingly that you're very sorry she's unhappy, that you wish this decision wasn't making her so unhappy---but that the decision has been made.
One thing that can make me quite upset about family naming traditions is that they can cause this kind of pressure---and the pressure builds with every generation. And the pressure is unwarranted and unfair: each set of parents gets to name their OWN babies---not the babies of their descendents. Naming traditions allow previous generations to name their own babies AND other people's babies. Furthermore, it makes the decision without the consent of people who will marry into the family in the future---traditionally speaking, the women. If everyone likes this idea, it's fine; but more often, people do it because no one can stand to be the one to break it. It's unfair, and I believe the concept that it is perfectly within the parents' rights to break such traditions should be more widespread.
Your idea of giving him the name Charlton _ucker as middle names might be a way to please your in-laws partway, without it being a capitulation: they're still losing their Fifth, and they lose the first name. It's common for a boy to be given his father's first name as a middle name, and a name you dislike wouldn't be as big a deal in the middle name position; and yet it may help to comfort and please your in-laws who have also gotten caught up in the pressure caused by this naming tradition.
I love your blog, and thank you so much for being such a voice of reason in the baby naming madness!and
My husband and I are hoping you can help us find a name for our son, who is due in about three weeks. There are a WHOLE bunch of issues. Let me try to unpack them....
So to begin at the beginning, my name is Olivia and my husband is Charlton. We go by Liv and Charlie.
We are super hippie dippy ish, as my 12 year old would say (she came back from some sort of drug awareness day at school and asked us how much weed we had smoked) and that's part of the issue, kind of. Our kids have my last name (Hawke) in part because of the hippie-ness, in part because his last name rhymes with an insult (f-er) and in part because I'm an only child and he has two brothers. the kids do have his last name as a second middle name.
We have four spectacular daughters: Adelaide Miriam, Samantha Irene, Georgia Isabel, Eleanor Miranda. they sometimes go by Addy, Sammy, Georgie, and Ellie but its not how they are introduced or anything, more like family/friends. We love that they have long formal names plus fun nicknames.
So here's the real problem: my parents are dead, so the problem is really my husband's family. They are super traditional and they are all SO EXCITED that we are having a boy. I think that they think that we just kept having girls until we finally got a boy, which is so not even a tiny bit true. We love having girls. We think it will be fun to have a boy because it will be interesting to get to parent both, but its not like we KEPT getting pregnant so we could "finally get our boy" as my FIL says. We just wanted a big family! (and this will be our last child because we agreed on five, NOT because we are "finally getting our boy."
so anyway. in Charlie's family the longstanding tradition is to give the firstborn boy (which this is) is to name is Charlton-Absurd Middle Name That Is The WASPiest Name You Can Imagine-Last Name That Rhymes With A Playground Insult. (Charlie is a fourth). the trouble is we don't like any of those names. Charlton is all NRA-y (see hippie dippie) the middle name is absurd, and this baby's last name will be Hawke, like the other kids. His parent aren't happy about that either.
but there is a LOT of pressure to Do It The Right Way, which means giving the baby this name we don't like. and the other thing is, both of us kind of feel like we don't want our girls to think for even a second that they aren't valued, or that The Boy is somehow better than them beacuse he has a penis, or WHATEVER. and although they all have middle names that have meaning to us--special friends, or influential people--none of them have family names. and I love my husband and would love to honor him with our son's name--but I don't exactly want to honor his father/grandfather etc, and also I HATE the name, and he isn't fond of it either...but it would mean so much to his parents. Ugh. No idea what to do.
So....what on earth do we do here?
(you can probably get a sense of our style from the girls names but some boys names we both like are William, James, Henry, Isaac, Edward, and Sebastian--though a couple of those are out so we dont repeat initials).
wow, i wrote you a lot. feel free to edit and delete parts!
and THANK YOU!!!!
I have one more....data point! The baby is due next week (eeeeeeeek) and my husband and I are just not sure what to do. My MIL called me last night weeping because she says that the idea of not having a grandson named after her husband makes her too sad. Which...what? On the one hand, wtf. On the other hand, I actually LIKE my MIL most of the time, and even though there are lots of things about us she doesn't approve of she has been really kind to me, especially as I don't have a mom anymore, and she is a really great grandma to my girls. So...what on earth do I do? We are kind of thinking about using Charlton as this baby's middle name but we don't LIKE it that much and also then we again have the issue of not wanting the girls to feel like they were undervalued because they ddin't get a family name.
I asked Addy (12) what she thinks yesterday and she says that it would bother her some not to be named after either parent if her brother was but that she'd get over it....
Thanks for any help!
I really see the pressure here. I see why it will be difficult not to name your son after his father. I can see why your in-laws are so invested in it, and so upset about it. It's a painful situation all around, especially since no one wants to hurt anyone else.
But neither you nor your husband wants to use the name. The pressure does not trump that. You may CHOOSE to allow the pressure to trump that, if you wish, and some families do make that decision. But it comes down to this: there is no way for everyone in this situation to be happy, and the job of naming the baby is yours and your husband's.
Furthermore, you've already decided to give your children your husband's surname as a second middle name and your surname as their surname. Changing now would only make sense if you'd had a prior plan---something like "All the girls will have my surname and all the boys will have yours." Changing for the fifth child in order to meet your in-law's preferences seems wrong, and confusing.
Wait---re-reading the letter, it sounds like you'd give the baby your surname regardless. If your son is going to be a Hawke, then it doesn't matter what his other names are, he won't be a Fifth, and the tradition is broken regardless; I don't see any reason at all to use a first and middle name you don't like just to please your in-laws, when it won't even satisfy their naming tradition.
In fact, I'm ready to make a call here: if the baby is going to be Hawke, then no, don't name him the family names. Your mother-in-law doesn't get to name the baby, even if you love her and even if she cries. She named her own babies, and this is a "put the foot down" situation, similar to if she was insisting you buy a house she liked instead of one you liked, or insisting you wear clothes she liked instead of ones you liked, or insisting on another first/middle name not connected to the family. Perhaps one of her other sons will name a son after her husband. And if not, that is sad for her but that's the way it is: we do not go around pressuring other people to honor our family members with namesakes, just because it makes us sad if they don't.
If you decide not to use the name, and to continue with your household's tradition of the children getting their mother's surname, two things need to happen immediately: first, your husband needs to talk to his parents and tell them that their family name will not be used (I assume he doesn't need to be instructed to emphasize that this is what HE wants, since their inclination might be to assume otherwise); and second, all discussion with the in-laws on the topic needs to stop. If your mother-in-law calls you in tears, she needs to be told very kindly and understandingly that you're very sorry she's unhappy, that you wish this decision wasn't making her so unhappy---but that the decision has been made.
One thing that can make me quite upset about family naming traditions is that they can cause this kind of pressure---and the pressure builds with every generation. And the pressure is unwarranted and unfair: each set of parents gets to name their OWN babies---not the babies of their descendents. Naming traditions allow previous generations to name their own babies AND other people's babies. Furthermore, it makes the decision without the consent of people who will marry into the family in the future---traditionally speaking, the women. If everyone likes this idea, it's fine; but more often, people do it because no one can stand to be the one to break it. It's unfair, and I believe the concept that it is perfectly within the parents' rights to break such traditions should be more widespread.
Your idea of giving him the name Charlton _ucker as middle names might be a way to please your in-laws partway, without it being a capitulation: they're still losing their Fifth, and they lose the first name. It's common for a boy to be given his father's first name as a middle name, and a name you dislike wouldn't be as big a deal in the middle name position; and yet it may help to comfort and please your in-laws who have also gotten caught up in the pressure caused by this naming tradition.
Baby Naming Issue: Are Calvin and Alice Too Similar?
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Lisa writes:
I vote that Calvin and Alice are not too similar. I think this is one of those situations where if I were suggesting the name Alice to you, I'd think it was worth pointing out that the -al- sound repeats so that you could think about it beforehand, but I'd be saying that in my opinion it tied the names together nicely rather than sounding repetitive.
If it continues to bother you, I do like your idea of setting the name aside for a possible future girl: separating the names with another name or two would definitely diminish the similarity. It's a risk, of course, since you might not have another girl---so it's a matter of how sad you'd be if you gambled on this plan and then didn't get to use the name. The best of all would be if you had a boy this time, since that would separate the names automatically, without a gamble!
If you have a girl this time and choose to delay using Alice, we'd want to look at each of the other names on your girl list and see if any of those would rule out using Alice later. Beatrice, for example: would it bother you to repeat the -ice ending? Try it out and see: Calvin, Beatrice, and Alice. Or if you use Eloise, would it bother you to have two girls starting with a vowel-L combination? Calvin, Eloise, and Alice. All of these will be so subjective: if it were me, I'd rather not have two -ice endings in a row (though I wouldn't mind if they were separated by another child, I don't think), but I don't mind the El/Al issue; someone else might be the other way around, or dislike both, or not mind either.
Let's have a poll over to the right to weigh in on the immediate question, which is whether it's okay to use Alice this time, if the baby is a girl.
Our second child is set to arrive mid-March. We did not find out the gender the first time around and will not this time either. For our first child we had narrowed down our name choices to Calvin or Miles for a boy and Alice for a girl. We had a boy named Calvin David! Now, as we are narrowing down the choices for our second child, I am not sure whether Calvin and Alice sound awkward together because of the repeition of the "al." We were SO set on it for a girl the first time around and now we are having major second thoughts when it is paired with Calvin. We are planning to have more children (4 or 5 total, so we could always hold off on Alice if it is a girl and hope to use the name when it won't be so closely paired with Calvin). Other names we like for girls are : Beatrice, Daphne, Eloise, Greta and Millie. For boys, we like Brooks, Miles and Wesley, which I think all go fine with Calvin!
So, what do you think: Calvin and Alice...yay or nay?
I vote that Calvin and Alice are not too similar. I think this is one of those situations where if I were suggesting the name Alice to you, I'd think it was worth pointing out that the -al- sound repeats so that you could think about it beforehand, but I'd be saying that in my opinion it tied the names together nicely rather than sounding repetitive.
If it continues to bother you, I do like your idea of setting the name aside for a possible future girl: separating the names with another name or two would definitely diminish the similarity. It's a risk, of course, since you might not have another girl---so it's a matter of how sad you'd be if you gambled on this plan and then didn't get to use the name. The best of all would be if you had a boy this time, since that would separate the names automatically, without a gamble!
If you have a girl this time and choose to delay using Alice, we'd want to look at each of the other names on your girl list and see if any of those would rule out using Alice later. Beatrice, for example: would it bother you to repeat the -ice ending? Try it out and see: Calvin, Beatrice, and Alice. Or if you use Eloise, would it bother you to have two girls starting with a vowel-L combination? Calvin, Eloise, and Alice. All of these will be so subjective: if it were me, I'd rather not have two -ice endings in a row (though I wouldn't mind if they were separated by another child, I don't think), but I don't mind the El/Al issue; someone else might be the other way around, or dislike both, or not mind either.
Let's have a poll over to the right to weigh in on the immediate question, which is whether it's okay to use Alice this time, if the baby is a girl.
Happy Father's Day June 16, 2013
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THIRD Sunday of June 16, 2013 is known and celebrated as Father's Day. So, what are you trying to get for the most important man in your life?
A Father's Day is greated once a year and it depends to you on how you can make this special day memorable for your closest man. Of course, there are many ways on how you can show to your daddy how much you love him.
First, we have no doubt you want to get a Father's Day gifts that will be cherished. You might try to find some thoughtful and unique father's day gifts that every dad will appreciate and enjoy. These gifts for dad are a great way to surprise him and make him proud to be your dad.
The best Father's Day gift for Dad should be one that expresses your gratitude to him for being your Dad. It should be one that comes from the heart. Even if you and your dad weren't that close, it is important that you pick the best Father's Day gift for Dad, because it sends a clear message to him that you do in fact care about him. You do in fact appreciate him for being your dad.
If you are not sure what to give for Daddy, then let's think first by asking yourself. Who your dad really is and what he might like. What does he mean to you? What role did he play in your life growing up? If your find the right answers, the best Father's Day gift for Dad just might be something you would never have thought of before.
Choosing that perfect Father's Day gift can be daunting task. However, there are hundreds of quality gifts available today that can be bought online. Search the internet for some ideas for gifts for dad, and be sure to order early so your gift arrives in time for Father's Day.
Father's Day 2013 on June 16th will be celebrated in many countries such as bellow. So, happy father's day for all the men who live there
Father's day in EUROPE:
Bulgaria, Croatia, Cyprus, Czech Republic, France, Greece, Hungary, Ireland, Malta, Netherlands, Slovakia, Turkey and United Kingdom.
Father's day celebration in AMERICAN Continent:
Argentina, Bahamas, Barbados, Belize, Bermuda, Canada, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Cuba, Guyana, Haiti, Mexico, Panama, Paraguay, Peru, Puerto Rico, Saint Lucia, Saint Vincent, Trinidad and Tobago, United States and Venezuela.
Father's day in ASIA:
Bahrain, Bangladesh, Brunei Darussalam, China, Hong Kong, India, Japan, Malaysia, Myanmar, Pakistan, Philippines, Singapore and Sri Lanka.
Finally happy Father's day June 16, 2013 in AFRICAN lands:
Ethiopia, Ghana, Jamaica, Mauritius, Namibia, Nigeria, South Africa, Zambia and Zimbabwe
Easy Activities and Gift Ideas for Mother's Day
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MOTHER's Day is coming up soon! It's on Sunday, May 12, 2013. So, what ways can you honor and celebrate your mom, wife, mother-in-law, grandmothers, sisters and aunts that creates powerful memories? What are some awesome recommendations for Mother’s Day gifts?
Celebrating and giving gifts on Mother's Day can be challenging task for some. Of course, on Mother's Day this year, you want to delight her by gifting a special day treatment and selecting good gifts of many choices like fresh flowers, perfumes, jewelry, or other delightful presents.
Here are a few tips: easy activities and gift ideas of Mother's Day 2013 that might be good for her:
1. Queen for a Day Treatment
What is meant by "Queen for a Day Treatment?" It's a day to show appreciation to own mother to get away from the everyday chores by.giving her treatment that would sure make her feel really loved. For examples; spending the whole day with fun activities and things that she truly wants to do, give her a massage, spa gift basket, facial treatment or send her a date with dad to their favorite hotel and restaurant. Lastly, give her a hugh and tell her how much you love her.
2. Spending Quality Time
Everyone agrees that time is the most precious thing in relationship. When we come of age, there’s a bit of disconnect of quality time together between the children and mom. Sometimes we are with our mom physically but not with her mentally. In this situation, what really mom need to spend time with their kids more of value time. Talk to her, indulge in her activities, and have some memorable time together. Don't waste every opportunity to bond with mom.
2. Gift Flowers
Flowers for mom on Mother's Day are the gift that is always welcomed for the right size and color, and will never have to be returned. Flowers are sure considered tasteful and thoughtful. Since woman basically enjoy the great smell and freshness of flowers that can "swing" her inner mood to be happy. Flowers can be ordered over the phone or via online, so they are very convenient for you as a giver. In addition, they are also basically inexpensive, but still sends the message of love and appreciation for the receiver.
3. Gift Basket for Mom
A gift basket for mom is a good idea on Mother's Day because there is a wide variety collections available nowadays. Each having its own arrangement that will fit Mom just right! This present can bring a personal touch to gift giving. Some Moms prefer gift basket that contains foods, flowers and chocolates with hand written note saying how much the kids love her. You may also think to present her a gift basket with beauty body care/bath products on it.
4. Write a Unique Letter
Write Mom a letter telling about the whole good things she’d done for you including the good memories you have with her. Write with your heart how meaningful she is since you were a kid till now. Share with her the things you've been carrying in your heart for a long time. Write Mom the greatest compliment ever. Show her with your hand written note instead of computerized one.
5. Home Video and CD
Home video and CD – a tribute to mom can be a great gift on Mother's Day. On this occasion you need to create a short home video that is a compilation of family videos. The point is she can watch it sometime whenever she misses her children. Or if you don’t have family videos then you can burn a CD Mix, a collection of all her favorite songs that remind her when you both used together.
There are more ideas and activities for Mother's Day. Finding memorable activities and gifts for Mom in 2013 are NOT difficult. Just remember the basic … mom doesn’t want their children to spend a fortune in order to make her really happy!
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Happy Father's Day June 16, 2013
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THIRD Sunday of June 16, 2013 is known and celebrated as Father's Day. So, what are you trying to get for the most important man in your life?
A Father's Day is greated once a year and it depends to you on how you can make this special day memorable for your closest man. Of course, there are many ways on how you can show to your daddy how much you love him.
First, we have no doubt you want to get a Father's Day gifts that will be cherished. You might try to find some thoughtful and unique father's day gifts that every dad will appreciate and enjoy. These gifts for dad are a great way to surprise him and make him proud to be your dad.
The best Father's Day gift for Dad should be one that expresses your gratitude to him for being your Dad. It should be one that comes from the heart. Even if you and your dad weren't that close, it is important that you pick the best Father's Day gift for Dad, because it sends a clear message to him that you do in fact care about him. You do in fact appreciate him for being your dad.
If you are not sure what to give for Daddy, then let's think first by asking yourself. Who your dad really is and what he might like. What does he mean to you? What role did he play in your life growing up? If your find the right answers, the best Father's Day gift for Dad just might be something you would never have thought of before.
Choosing that perfect Father's Day gift can be daunting task. However, there are hundreds of quality gifts available today that can be bought online. Search the internet for some ideas for gifts for dad, and be sure to order early so your gift arrives in time for Father's Day.
Father's Day 2013 on June 16th will be celebrated in many countries such as bellow. So, happy father's day for all the men who live there
Father's day in EUROPE:
Bulgaria, Croatia, Cyprus, Czech Republic, France, Greece, Hungary, Ireland, Malta, Netherlands, Slovakia, Turkey and United Kingdom.
Father's day celebration in AMERICAN Continent:
Argentina, Bahamas, Barbados, Belize, Bermuda, Canada, Chile, Colombia, Costa Rica, Cuba, Guyana, Haiti, Mexico, Panama, Paraguay, Peru, Puerto Rico, Saint Lucia, Saint Vincent, Trinidad and Tobago, United States and Venezuela.
Father's day in ASIA:
Bahrain, Bangladesh, Brunei Darussalam, China, Hong Kong, India, Japan, Malaysia, Myanmar, Pakistan, Philippines, Singapore and Sri Lanka.
Finally happy Father's day June 16, 2013 in AFRICAN lands:
Ethiopia, Ghana, Jamaica, Mauritius, Namibia, Nigeria, South Africa, Zambia and Zimbabwe
Easy Activities and Gift Ideas for Mother's Day
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MOTHER's Day is coming up soon! It's on Sunday, May 12, 2013. So, what ways can you honor and celebrate your mom, wife, mother-in-law, grandmothers, sisters and aunts that creates powerful memories? What are some awesome recommendations for Mother’s Day gifts?
Celebrating and giving gifts on Mother's Day can be challenging task for some. Of course, on Mother's Day this year, you want to delight her by gifting a special day treatment and selecting good gifts of many choices like fresh flowers, perfumes, jewelry, or other delightful presents.
Here are a few tips: easy activities and gift ideas of Mother's Day 2013 that might be good for her:
1. Queen for a Day Treatment
What is meant by "Queen for a Day Treatment?" It's a day to show appreciation to own mother to get away from the everyday chores by.giving her treatment that would sure make her feel really loved. For examples; spending the whole day with fun activities and things that she truly wants to do, give her a massage, spa gift basket, facial treatment or send her a date with dad to their favorite hotel and restaurant. Lastly, give her a hugh and tell her how much you love her.
2. Spending Quality Time
Everyone agrees that time is the most precious thing in relationship. When we come of age, there’s a bit of disconnect of quality time together between the children and mom. Sometimes we are with our mom physically but not with her mentally. In this situation, what really mom need to spend time with their kids more of value time. Talk to her, indulge in her activities, and have some memorable time together. Don't waste every opportunity to bond with mom.
2. Gift Flowers
Flowers for mom on Mother's Day are the gift that is always welcomed for the right size and color, and will never have to be returned. Flowers are sure considered tasteful and thoughtful. Since woman basically enjoy the great smell and freshness of flowers that can "swing" her inner mood to be happy. Flowers can be ordered over the phone or via online, so they are very convenient for you as a giver. In addition, they are also basically inexpensive, but still sends the message of love and appreciation for the receiver.
3. Gift Basket for Mom
A gift basket for mom is a good idea on Mother's Day because there is a wide variety collections available nowadays. Each having its own arrangement that will fit Mom just right! This present can bring a personal touch to gift giving. Some Moms prefer gift basket that contains foods, flowers and chocolates with hand written note saying how much the kids love her. You may also think to present her a gift basket with beauty body care/bath products on it.
4. Write a Unique Letter
Write Mom a letter telling about the whole good things she’d done for you including the good memories you have with her. Write with your heart how meaningful she is since you were a kid till now. Share with her the things you've been carrying in your heart for a long time. Write Mom the greatest compliment ever. Show her with your hand written note instead of computerized one.
5. Home Video and CD
Home video and CD – a tribute to mom can be a great gift on Mother's Day. On this occasion you need to create a short home video that is a compilation of family videos. The point is she can watch it sometime whenever she misses her children. Or if you don’t have family videos then you can burn a CD Mix, a collection of all her favorite songs that remind her when you both used together.
There are more ideas and activities for Mother's Day. Finding memorable activities and gifts for Mom in 2013 are NOT difficult. Just remember the basic … mom doesn’t want their children to spend a fortune in order to make her really happy!
Good names for "Irish" cats to be adopted on St. Patrick's Day?
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Hi,
Our local animal shelter is having a St. Patrick's Day adoption celebration for cats. Do you have any good Irish names for cats? I know for people they say "Patty O'Furniture, etc. Thank you.|||Erin, Shannon, Siobhan, Fergus, Aislinn
O'Shea, Shaunessy, Killian, McDonough, and for any cat with whte feet: McMittens|||It you want the names to be really Irish, it's Paddy (not Patty) and Seamus (not Shamis)
Most Irish first names are crazy weird. Irish surnames are better. Here a list: http://www.namenerds.com/irish/last.html
I like Guinness.|||http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_Drink鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Cat_Bo鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_Laughs|||Claude O'Furniture might be more fitting lol. Some Irish names are: Murray, Seamus, Sean, Erin, Colleen and Tara.|||Lucky, Clover, Patrick|||Shamis|||a great name for an irish cat is paddy or shammy...............
Our local animal shelter is having a St. Patrick's Day adoption celebration for cats. Do you have any good Irish names for cats? I know for people they say "Patty O'Furniture, etc. Thank you.|||Erin, Shannon, Siobhan, Fergus, Aislinn
O'Shea, Shaunessy, Killian, McDonough, and for any cat with whte feet: McMittens|||It you want the names to be really Irish, it's Paddy (not Patty) and Seamus (not Shamis)
Most Irish first names are crazy weird. Irish surnames are better. Here a list: http://www.namenerds.com/irish/last.html
I like Guinness.|||http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_Drink鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_Cat_Bo鈥?/a>
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cat_Laughs|||Claude O'Furniture might be more fitting lol. Some Irish names are: Murray, Seamus, Sean, Erin, Colleen and Tara.|||Lucky, Clover, Patrick|||Shamis|||a great name for an irish cat is paddy or shammy...............
Baby Naming Issue: A Family Naming Tradition Breaks a Household's Naming Traditions
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Liv writes:
I really see the pressure here. I see why it will be difficult not to name your son after his father. I can see why your in-laws are so invested in it, and so upset about it. It's a painful situation all around, especially since no one wants to hurt anyone else.
But neither you nor your husband wants to use the name. The pressure does not trump that. You may CHOOSE to allow the pressure to trump that, if you wish, and some families do make that decision. But it comes down to this: there is no way for everyone in this situation to be happy, and the job of naming the baby is yours and your husband's.
Furthermore, you've already decided to give your children your husband's surname as a second middle name and your surname as their surname. Changing now would only make sense if you'd had a prior plan---something like "All the girls will have my surname and all the boys will have yours." Changing for the fifth child in order to meet your in-law's preferences seems wrong, and confusing.
Wait---re-reading the letter, it sounds like you'd give the baby your surname regardless. If your son is going to be a Hawke, then it doesn't matter what his other names are, he won't be a Fifth, and the tradition is broken regardless; I don't see any reason at all to use a first and middle name you don't like just to please your in-laws, when it won't even satisfy their naming tradition.
In fact, I'm ready to make a call here: if the baby is going to be Hawke, then no, don't name him the family names. Your mother-in-law doesn't get to name the baby, even if you love her and even if she cries. She named her own babies, and this is a "put the foot down" situation, similar to if she was insisting you buy a house she liked instead of one you liked, or insisting you wear clothes she liked instead of ones you liked, or insisting on another first/middle name not connected to the family. Perhaps one of her other sons will name a son after her husband. And if not, that is sad for her but that's the way it is: we do not go around pressuring other people to honor our family members with namesakes, just because it makes us sad if they don't.
If you decide not to use the name, and to continue with your household's tradition of the children getting their mother's surname, two things need to happen immediately: first, your husband needs to talk to his parents and tell them that their family name will not be used (I assume he doesn't need to be instructed to emphasize that this is what HE wants, since their inclination might be to assume otherwise); and second, all discussion with the in-laws on the topic needs to stop. If your mother-in-law calls you in tears, she needs to be told very kindly and understandingly that you're very sorry she's unhappy, that you wish this decision wasn't making her so unhappy---but that the decision has been made.
One thing that can make me quite upset about family naming traditions is that they can cause this kind of pressure---and the pressure builds with every generation. And the pressure is unwarranted and unfair: each set of parents gets to name their OWN babies---not the babies of their descendents. Naming traditions allow previous generations to name their own babies AND other people's babies. Furthermore, it makes the decision without the consent of people who will marry into the family in the future---traditionally speaking, the women. If everyone likes this idea, it's fine; but more often, people do it because no one can stand to be the one to break it. It's unfair, and I believe the concept that it is perfectly within the parents' rights to break such traditions should be more widespread.
Your idea of giving him the name Charlton _ucker as middle names might be a way to please your in-laws partway, without it being a capitulation: they're still losing their Fifth, and they lose the first name. It's common for a boy to be given his father's first name as a middle name, and a name you dislike wouldn't be as big a deal in the middle name position; and yet it may help to comfort and please your in-laws who have also gotten caught up in the pressure caused by this naming tradition.
I love your blog, and thank you so much for being such a voice of reason in the baby naming madness!and
My husband and I are hoping you can help us find a name for our son, who is due in about three weeks. There are a WHOLE bunch of issues. Let me try to unpack them....
So to begin at the beginning, my name is Olivia and my husband is Charlton. We go by Liv and Charlie.
We are super hippie dippy ish, as my 12 year old would say (she came back from some sort of drug awareness day at school and asked us how much weed we had smoked) and that's part of the issue, kind of. Our kids have my last name (Hawke) in part because of the hippie-ness, in part because his last name rhymes with an insult (f-er) and in part because I'm an only child and he has two brothers. the kids do have his last name as a second middle name.
We have four spectacular daughters: Adelaide Miriam, Samantha Irene, Georgia Isabel, Eleanor Miranda. they sometimes go by Addy, Sammy, Georgie, and Ellie but its not how they are introduced or anything, more like family/friends. We love that they have long formal names plus fun nicknames.
So here's the real problem: my parents are dead, so the problem is really my husband's family. They are super traditional and they are all SO EXCITED that we are having a boy. I think that they think that we just kept having girls until we finally got a boy, which is so not even a tiny bit true. We love having girls. We think it will be fun to have a boy because it will be interesting to get to parent both, but its not like we KEPT getting pregnant so we could "finally get our boy" as my FIL says. We just wanted a big family! (and this will be our last child because we agreed on five, NOT because we are "finally getting our boy."
so anyway. in Charlie's family the longstanding tradition is to give the firstborn boy (which this is) is to name is Charlton-Absurd Middle Name That Is The WASPiest Name You Can Imagine-Last Name That Rhymes With A Playground Insult. (Charlie is a fourth). the trouble is we don't like any of those names. Charlton is all NRA-y (see hippie dippie) the middle name is absurd, and this baby's last name will be Hawke, like the other kids. His parent aren't happy about that either.
but there is a LOT of pressure to Do It The Right Way, which means giving the baby this name we don't like. and the other thing is, both of us kind of feel like we don't want our girls to think for even a second that they aren't valued, or that The Boy is somehow better than them beacuse he has a penis, or WHATEVER. and although they all have middle names that have meaning to us--special friends, or influential people--none of them have family names. and I love my husband and would love to honor him with our son's name--but I don't exactly want to honor his father/grandfather etc, and also I HATE the name, and he isn't fond of it either...but it would mean so much to his parents. Ugh. No idea what to do.
So....what on earth do we do here?
(you can probably get a sense of our style from the girls names but some boys names we both like are William, James, Henry, Isaac, Edward, and Sebastian--though a couple of those are out so we dont repeat initials).
wow, i wrote you a lot. feel free to edit and delete parts!
and THANK YOU!!!!
I have one more....data point! The baby is due next week (eeeeeeeek) and my husband and I are just not sure what to do. My MIL called me last night weeping because she says that the idea of not having a grandson named after her husband makes her too sad. Which...what? On the one hand, wtf. On the other hand, I actually LIKE my MIL most of the time, and even though there are lots of things about us she doesn't approve of she has been really kind to me, especially as I don't have a mom anymore, and she is a really great grandma to my girls. So...what on earth do I do? We are kind of thinking about using Charlton as this baby's middle name but we don't LIKE it that much and also then we again have the issue of not wanting the girls to feel like they were undervalued because they ddin't get a family name.
I asked Addy (12) what she thinks yesterday and she says that it would bother her some not to be named after either parent if her brother was but that she'd get over it....
Thanks for any help!
I really see the pressure here. I see why it will be difficult not to name your son after his father. I can see why your in-laws are so invested in it, and so upset about it. It's a painful situation all around, especially since no one wants to hurt anyone else.
But neither you nor your husband wants to use the name. The pressure does not trump that. You may CHOOSE to allow the pressure to trump that, if you wish, and some families do make that decision. But it comes down to this: there is no way for everyone in this situation to be happy, and the job of naming the baby is yours and your husband's.
Furthermore, you've already decided to give your children your husband's surname as a second middle name and your surname as their surname. Changing now would only make sense if you'd had a prior plan---something like "All the girls will have my surname and all the boys will have yours." Changing for the fifth child in order to meet your in-law's preferences seems wrong, and confusing.
Wait---re-reading the letter, it sounds like you'd give the baby your surname regardless. If your son is going to be a Hawke, then it doesn't matter what his other names are, he won't be a Fifth, and the tradition is broken regardless; I don't see any reason at all to use a first and middle name you don't like just to please your in-laws, when it won't even satisfy their naming tradition.
In fact, I'm ready to make a call here: if the baby is going to be Hawke, then no, don't name him the family names. Your mother-in-law doesn't get to name the baby, even if you love her and even if she cries. She named her own babies, and this is a "put the foot down" situation, similar to if she was insisting you buy a house she liked instead of one you liked, or insisting you wear clothes she liked instead of ones you liked, or insisting on another first/middle name not connected to the family. Perhaps one of her other sons will name a son after her husband. And if not, that is sad for her but that's the way it is: we do not go around pressuring other people to honor our family members with namesakes, just because it makes us sad if they don't.
If you decide not to use the name, and to continue with your household's tradition of the children getting their mother's surname, two things need to happen immediately: first, your husband needs to talk to his parents and tell them that their family name will not be used (I assume he doesn't need to be instructed to emphasize that this is what HE wants, since their inclination might be to assume otherwise); and second, all discussion with the in-laws on the topic needs to stop. If your mother-in-law calls you in tears, she needs to be told very kindly and understandingly that you're very sorry she's unhappy, that you wish this decision wasn't making her so unhappy---but that the decision has been made.
One thing that can make me quite upset about family naming traditions is that they can cause this kind of pressure---and the pressure builds with every generation. And the pressure is unwarranted and unfair: each set of parents gets to name their OWN babies---not the babies of their descendents. Naming traditions allow previous generations to name their own babies AND other people's babies. Furthermore, it makes the decision without the consent of people who will marry into the family in the future---traditionally speaking, the women. If everyone likes this idea, it's fine; but more often, people do it because no one can stand to be the one to break it. It's unfair, and I believe the concept that it is perfectly within the parents' rights to break such traditions should be more widespread.
Your idea of giving him the name Charlton _ucker as middle names might be a way to please your in-laws partway, without it being a capitulation: they're still losing their Fifth, and they lose the first name. It's common for a boy to be given his father's first name as a middle name, and a name you dislike wouldn't be as big a deal in the middle name position; and yet it may help to comfort and please your in-laws who have also gotten caught up in the pressure caused by this naming tradition.
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